She’ll think you’ve read her mind once you start doing these actions during intimate moments.
In a perfect world, you’d be able to intuit what every single woman you’ll ever be with in your lifetime desires in bed. Or, all of your lovers would be able to clearly articulate what it is they want from
Unfortunately, that’s not reality — though this can make things more engaging and stimulating for all parties involved. After all, isn’t that part of the joy a new relationship entails simply the thrill in getting to know what makes someone else tick?
While you may think you’re clued into your girlfriend’s every want and need, there are probably some actions she’s too shy to request. Lucky for you, we asked three sexual health experts to spill the beans on what women’s most common unspoken wishes are. Read on to make those wishes your command—and blow her mind in the process.
“Many women are afraid to ask their partner to cherish them for fear of coming off as too needy ,” says Dr. Judy Rosenberg, Ph.D., founder of the psychological healing center in Sherman Oaks/Beverly Hills and author of Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect . But, when you demonstrate to your girlfriend just how important she is to you—say, by buying her flowers, telling her how much you care about her or how grateful you are to have her in your life, or simply pay paying more attention to her interests outside the bedroom—the desire she feels towards you will most likely skyrocket.
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Why? Because most women need to feel line-height safe "line-height: in order to truly enjoy a sexual encounter with a man, says Rosenberg. And part of making her feeling safe entails reassuring her, through your actions and through your words, that, to you, she’s number one.
“Women want men to connect with them before, during, and after sex,” says AASECT-certified sex therapist Kristie Overstreet, LPCC, CST, author of Fix Yourself First: 25 Tips to Stop Ruining Your Relationship . Looking into her eyes, she says, is a surefire way to do this.
That doesn’t just mean while you’re making love to her. Eye contact is important for cultivating connection between two human beings inside and outside of the bedroom. Consider a classic psychology study wherein several groups of two strangers were forced to look into each other’s eyes: Those who maintained eye contact reported more intense feelings of love and liking towards the person with whom they shared a mutual gaze when questioned after the experiment.
That’s not to say you should never look away—after all, eye contact can be creepy—but to foster those stronger feelings of connection she craves, don’t forget to gaze at her over drinks, dinner, and while cuddling (in addition to moments of physical intimacy).
Asking you for oral sex isn’t the easiest thing for most women to do, explains Barbara Gold, LCSW, author of Loving Courageously: First Me, Then You, Now Us. “That’s because many women are taught to give pleasure, not to request it—and they can be very concerned that a male partner may dislike the act, respond negatively to her, or be turned off by the way she tastes or smells.
Gold recommends discussing the prospect with your partner prior to hopping into bed—i.e., “is this something you like or would be interested in?”—and, once you do go down, checking in with her to ensure it feels good. (Every woman is different in what pushes her over the edge, so it may take you a few tries to get it right. Listen closely and let her guide you.)
Bonus points if you can reassure her that she needn’t feel shy about the act—both by saying this directly and demonstrating that sentiment via your enthusiasm and willingness to pleasure her with your mouth.
While we’re (kind of) sympathetic to the fact that following an orgasm you’d like to roll over and nap, that’s not exactly the kind of response that makes us want to come back to you for more — especially if we’re left unsatisfied.
Make it a priority that your partner experiences just as much pleasure as you do during all physical encounters. That doesn’t necessarily mean she has to orgasm—some women get turned off by the pressure to climax and prefer the overall experience versus the traditional end goal—but it does mean her pleasure should be just as much a priority as yours. Just because you’ve gotten off doesn’t mean the mutual act of love-making is done.
“Some men put too much focus on themselves and completing their orgasm and ejaculation,” says Overstreet. “Don’t leave her hanging. Men need to pay attention to ensure the women have the opportunity to complete orgasm if she wishes too. Take advantage of an opportunity to sit back, watch, and relax especially if she takes it into her own hands.
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Unfortunately, that’s not reality — though this can make things more engaging and stimulating for all parties involved. After all, isn’t that part of the joy a new relationship entails simply the thrill in getting to know what makes someone else tick?
While you may think you’re clued into your girlfriend’s every want and need, there are probably some actions she’s too shy to request. Lucky for you, we asked three sexual health experts to spill the beans on what women’s most common unspoken wishes are. Read on to make those wishes your command—and blow her mind in the process.
SEE ALSO : 17 Sex Tips For Men To Follow In 2017
Why? Because most women need to feel line-height safe "line-height: in order to truly enjoy a sexual encounter with a man, says Rosenberg. And part of making her feeling safe entails reassuring her, through your actions and through your words, that, to you, she’s number one.
“Women want men to connect with them before, during, and after sex,” says AASECT-certified sex therapist Kristie Overstreet, LPCC, CST, author of Fix Yourself First: 25 Tips to Stop Ruining Your Relationship . Looking into her eyes, she says, is a surefire way to do this.
That doesn’t just mean while you’re making love to her. Eye contact is important for cultivating connection between two human beings inside and outside of the bedroom. Consider a classic psychology study wherein several groups of two strangers were forced to look into each other’s eyes: Those who maintained eye contact reported more intense feelings of love and liking towards the person with whom they shared a mutual gaze when questioned after the experiment.
That’s not to say you should never look away—after all, eye contact can be creepy—but to foster those stronger feelings of connection she craves, don’t forget to gaze at her over drinks, dinner, and while cuddling (in addition to moments of physical intimacy).
Asking you for oral sex isn’t the easiest thing for most women to do, explains Barbara Gold, LCSW, author of Loving Courageously: First Me, Then You, Now Us. “That’s because many women are taught to give pleasure, not to request it—and they can be very concerned that a male partner may dislike the act, respond negatively to her, or be turned off by the way she tastes or smells.
Gold recommends discussing the prospect with your partner prior to hopping into bed—i.e., “is this something you like or would be interested in?”—and, once you do go down, checking in with her to ensure it feels good. (Every woman is different in what pushes her over the edge, so it may take you a few tries to get it right. Listen closely and let her guide you.)
Bonus points if you can reassure her that she needn’t feel shy about the act—both by saying this directly and demonstrating that sentiment via your enthusiasm and willingness to pleasure her with your mouth.
Make it a priority that your partner experiences just as much pleasure as you do during all physical encounters. That doesn’t necessarily mean she has to orgasm—some women get turned off by the pressure to climax and prefer the overall experience versus the traditional end goal—but it does mean her pleasure should be just as much a priority as yours. Just because you’ve gotten off doesn’t mean the mutual act of love-making is done.
“Some men put too much focus on themselves and completing their orgasm and ejaculation,” says Overstreet. “Don’t leave her hanging. Men need to pay attention to ensure the women have the opportunity to complete orgasm if she wishes too. Take advantage of an opportunity to sit back, watch, and relax especially if she takes it into her own hands.
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